Be a walker, not a talker!
How many times have we heard that empty wagon making a lot of noise? You know that person, who talks just to hear the sound of his/her own voice. We all know at least one person, who talks excessively just because they don’t want to hear the white noise or the beautiful silence in the air. They are talking, because they are typically insecure about themselves and they want you to think that they know a little something about everything, but do they really? You have to ask yourself, what type of fruit are they bearing? There is nothing wrong with sharing knowledge and expertise with others, but it becomes very annoying for others when the talkative person is yapping just to impress others or to posture him or herself. The biggest problem is that they are talking so much…they are NOT listening! And when they are not listening…they are not learning about themselves or their audience. And the rest of us feel we’ve been taken hostage and we end up hearing far more than we want to know when the talkative person insists on talking about himself or herself. H-E-L-L-O!! Let me share a news flash with you. Most of the time, the most powerful person in the room IS the quiet one. Why? It’s typically, because the quiet person is always listening and absorbing information that will be used at the appropriate time. Proverbs 17:28 states, ‘Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.’ If you talk the talk more than you can walk the walk, here are some tips that may help you. Listen more actively. You never know what you may learn about others and yourself. Give non-verbal feedback. Instead of interrupting others, give non-verbal feedback or acknowledge you are actively listening by saying “uh-huh”. Ask more questions of others. Showing more interest in others will enable you to take the attention off yourself. Don’t always fill the void. Don’t feel compelled to feel the void when there is a pause. Silence is okay. Really…it is! Words vibrate. Speaking too much dilates the power within you and impacts your ability to focus, so your thoughts become disjointed and you begin to wander. Your work products suffer as a result of your inability to focus, as well. If you haven’t noticed, people who speak less tend to accomplish more. So work on making a transition that will enable you to be more impactful by speaking less. PM