Are you the office enabler?
Do you find yourself worrying about someone all the time? Do you spend a lot of time at the office trying to find solutions for someone else’s life? Do you perform the work that someone else is supposed to be doing? If your answer to these questions is “yes”, then you’re playing the role of an enabler. We are enablers when we supply someone else with the means, knowledge or opportunity to make able. It may begin with a kind gesture or with the intent to be helpful, but it can and will take on another form in a short amount of time. Therefore, it’s imperative to recognize an enabling situation as soon as possible and to establish healthy limits. There is a very thin line between helping someone and enabling their undesirable behavior. As an enabler, we are only delaying the growth of the person we are enabling and that is not a good thing. It also gives us the false impression that we are in control and that we are helping by giving them one more chance to accomplish a task, but this is such a false belief. If we truly want to help someone, we must change our perspective and our pattern of behavior. We must stop making excuses for others and we must stop making excuses for ourselves. Most of all, don’t lie, compensate or cleanup someone else’s mess. We all must be willing to pay the consequences for our failure to fully execute a task or action. If you are concerned about someone, point them in the direction of a positive support system or recommend the services of a professional. Encourage them to seek the help that is needed and be a strong morale supporter. The benefits of these actions are more productive and long-term. Most of all, you can help them live a happier and healthier life. PM